You need a really big fly swatter As if moving on from a narcissistic abuser wasn’t enough. All of a sudden you’ve got flying monkeys to contend with. For those of you who don’t know, Flying Monkeys (FMs) are people who basically work for the narc. The narc will…

I’d like to know! My neighbour and I have a ritual every time we see each other. And it’s the same ritual as most neighbours in the UK. We see each other, and this brief exchange happens: Me: “Hiya, you alright?” Her: “Yeah, you?” Me: “Yeah, not bad.” That’s literally…

Or do you have namenesia? My husband’s most noticeable trait is that when someone tells him their name, he immediately rejects it from his memory. The first few times we went out together, he didn’t introduce me to people, and I was pretty annoyed. They would eventually introduce themselves, or…

Step 1 is the hardest Everyone who has suffered domestic or narcissistic abuse has that one moment. That split second in their life when everything comes into focus and they see things for how they truly are. For some, it’s a screaming row; for others, it’s one punch in the…

I’ve changed my relationship with alcohol completely When I was a counselor, I drank a lot. I drank to numb the pain of my clients that I was carrying around with me. I drank to silence their voices and the stories of the vile things that happened to them. And…

There’s usually a reason for it. When it comes to experiencing trauma as a child, one of two things tends to happen. The child’s maturity is stunted. Resulting in behavior that seems too young for their age bracket. Or they mature much faster. Traumatized children who mature faster do so…

You deserve more than the basic package! As women, we’re supposed to pride ourselves on being low maintenance. We are taught from a young age not to take up too much space, not to make noise, and not to ask for things. Men are allowed to have demands. Especially when…

They will try to make anything seem okay We all rationalize our own behavior from time to time; it’s human nature. We think or say things we probably shouldn’t, and we don’t want our motives questioned. So we apply logic where there is none and come up with reasons that…

Looking back I don’t believe she had OCD I’ve written previously about how cleaning was a trigger for my ex to abuse me. And the motivation behind it was narcissism, but she claimed she had Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Narcissists and Housework It’s easy to criticize, that’s why they do it.leonora-watkins.medium.com And having had absolutely no experience of OCD at that point, I…